• Boundaries & Limits

    Own your limits

    I feel that the “cancel culture” we have created in our society, our focus on the conflict, on being “wrong”, is a result of us feeling insecure about our own limits. We feel a need to make someone “wrong” so that we can justify our own “no, thank you!”. It seems to me.  One of the most powerful learnings I have made in my Sexological Bodywork practice was the skill of claiming my own boundaries without making the others “wrong”.  I recall once in my training sessions, I was giving bodywork to a fellow student. After the work, still lying on the mat, they asked me to come down to them…

  • Boundaries & Limits

    Boundaries and Limits

    When we hear “boundaries” or “limits,” perhaps we think of something negative like a “restriction,” or “obstacle”, something that  limits our free expression or experience. I recall a conversation I had with a woman who just experienced her first back bend in ropes and was obviously challenged. She literally said: “That’s not me, that’s just my back” and I said, “But my dear, that is you.” This got me thinking about how deeply rooted this perspective is in us. Reaching out for our idea of how we want it to be, we are almost eager to objectify ourselves. I offer another perspective, borrowed from nature. Imagine river banks holding deep…