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On intimacy…
…or what we really do when we do ropes? In our studio, a beginner couple is practicing. Tension exercise. One hour into the class, Alexander tells the student to tie the leg. The student is asking his model, “This tight is ok?” then looks at Alexander and asks him: “You want me to decide, right?” and then thinks and asks some more: “Why is it important that I decide?”. At this point, I want to say something. What do we do when we do ropes? My suspicion is, that we want to have some sort of encounter. To meet each other. How should this go? One way is, we…
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Consent in rope
A short guide on how to negotiate consent in rope and get what you really want Consent in rope is a hot topic these days. There are many words written about empowering the person in ropes to set up or defend their boundaries and creating awareness for the tying person to encourage this behavior. That’s great. There is also a lot of teaching how to negotiate a rope scene including elaborated check-lists. Still, there is an element missing. We believe the “success” of consent negotiation comes not with the most detailed check-list but with getting clear and honest first of all with yourself and then your partner about what your intentionfor…