• Boundaries & Limits,  Consent,  Seme-Nawa

    On intimacy…

    …or what we really do when we do ropes? In our studio, a beginner couple is practicing.  Tension exercise. One hour into the class, Alexander tells the student to tie the leg. The student is asking his model, “This tight is ok?” then looks at Alexander and asks him: “You want me to decide, right?” and then thinks and asks some more: “Why is it important that I decide?”.  At this point, I want to say something.  What do we do when we do ropes?  My suspicion is, that we want to have some sort of encounter. To meet each other.   How should this go?  One way is, we…

  • Seme-Nawa

    Bottoming for Seme-nawa

    Semenawa is in demand these days. Many people feel attracted to a darker, erotic, challenging, and most of all deeply emotional way of doing Kinbaku. „Many people do naka-ties, but very few do naka style“ Riccardo Wildties From my perspective of the one being tied, I feel that a lot of actual seme-nawa spirit is created by the person in ropes, not only by the intention and skills of the person tying. I feel that it is our mindset, our presence with ourselves and our partner, with our emotions, our generous invitation, our devotion, this is what makes a big difference, this is what will define whether it will be…

  • Seme-Nawa

    The Power of Surrender

    Some thoughts on Seme-nawa from a bottoming perspective. My partner and I devote ourselves to a very particular kind of rope bondage – the one that is called “semenawa”. Literally it means “torture” or “tormenting rope”. I like to ponder about what it means in our context of erotic play, not torturing war captives… By definition, “torture” asks for intense experience. Riccardo Wildties: … torture starts when you are passing the threshold of “what is enough”. It is in the moment in which an ordinary bondage scene would stop that torture starts. Semenawa is giving “more than enough”…